Being a full time mum

So, a week on and the car is still not fixed … fingers crossed, the part we need replacing is due to be delivered today!!

Because Wilfred isn’t enrolled in a nursery, I’m very aware that I need to offer him a varied week full of new experiences, socialisation, learning and fun. Usually, I have him up and out of the house by 9:30am. But lots of the groups we attend and friends we visit are a bit of a jaunt by car, let alone on foot!!  Being without the car, I was seriously panicking we’d both be going stir crazy with cabin fever. 

However, I am pleased to report that we have had a lovely week together. I’m not sure I could do it all the time, but having a week out to simplify things and spend time together has been really nice. We have had friends over for coffee and play dates … but for the most part, its been just us and a less scheduled and quite laid back week. We’ve taken some walks in the local area, spent lots of time in the garden and played indoors. We’ve definitely (both) used our imagination more coming up with games. 

Going forward (once I’m back on the road), I think I’ll try and schedule more down time in our week. Usually, if I’m at home, I’m cleaning, cooking, organising something … I’m rarely sat just ‘being’ with them and enjoying their company. 



I have a one year old!

Actually, I have a 14 month old. Wilfred’s Birthday came and went back in February and as usual, I’ve been so busy with being a mom that the blog has been somewhat neglected. I’m a big fan of trying to live in the ‘here and now’. I mean an entire year has flown past me in the blink of an eye …


Since Wilfred arrived, I have had my gallbladder removed (after countless trips to the doctor and finally A&E!). We got married in a beautiful, simple winter ceremony (we are planning the ‘reception’ party for June this year. Eek. Yes, I bought another dress). Richard started a new job and spent a week in Dubai which meant I was a solo parent for the first time. Wilfred has hit lots of important and adorable milestones as well as developing the most endearing personality and a gorgeous mop of hair. I have built some really lovely friendships with other moms and perfected my stay-at-home-mom routine. 

I have become a much more efficient version of my pre-baby self. Having a toddler hanging off your hip will do that for you. With that in mind, time to schedule some regular posts and put a bit of love into my blog! Let’s reconnect. 



Working from home with a baby in tow

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First of all, hats off to anyone who does this full time [or even a consistent part time]! I have no idea how you do it. Maybe when Wilfred grows up, things will get easier – but for now, with an 8 month old in tow … I struggle to do much that’s productive [paid]. However, I do earn a little extra income [pocket money really] from working online. Sometimes, I have to wait until Wilfred’s asleep, sometimes I utilise his naps and sometimes [by a miracle of God], he plays quietly while I write something. Here’s a realistic view of what it’s like to earn money at home while you’re a full time mother.

I have a solid background in recruitment [4 years] and sales [retail and business development]. I studied fashion and Clothing at University and have a good understanding of written language along with strong communication skills. Lesson one: sell yourself. I know it all sounds a little big headed, but trust me – in the world of online work, you need to be competitive and you need to know your strengths and feel comfortable selling yourself. People Per is a great website to buy or sell skills. Man 1 has a car he wants to sell but cant word it properly, Man 2 has great written skills but no money – they get together, Man 1 pays Man 2 to write the car advert. Man 2 makes a bit of money and hopes that Man 1 will use him in the future when he needs anything written up. Simples. You set up a profile for yourself listing your skills and over time, people rate your work and you become higher ranking, therefore, more trusted by new clients. Hopefully, you build relationships and gain repeat contracts. Down side; PPH take a cut of your earnings. Plus side; you can take and drop work as you want.

Mostly, I write [or re-write] people’s CVs and covering letters, update/re-write LinkedIn profiles, do guest blog posts [hence the lack of time I spend on my own blog!], write articles for small companies or copy write for online shops [details of products]. I average £15 for an hour of work [when I can get it]. The problem with PPH is that it’s so popular now, that you literally have to fight off 50 other people to win a job. It’s tough. Like I said, you need to blow your own trumpet a bit … and then deliver! Which is tricky with a baby hanging off your leg / throwing up / screaming.

More recently, I have listed a few bits on eBay … I’m sure everyone knows how it works. Just small stuff [preferably that can fit into an envelope] that I have lying around … I really need to de-clutter! Anything’s a help at the moment. Down side; I have to walk to the post office to send stuff, even if it’s raining. Plus side; I have to walk to the post office, and I could really do with the exercise.

I am determined to stay at home with my baby but could really do with a few extra hours [baby-free] in the day to be productive. Most of my day is still taken up playing peek-a-boo and having food spat back in my face. Which is just where I want to be.

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